This shocking news just in: My love life may be over. Or at the least, my fantasy love life.¬¨‚Ä†According to a new study by¬¨‚Ä†researchers at the University of Edinburgh, people who frequently watch romantic comedies often have unrealistic expectations of romantic relationships and are put at a disadvantage in their relationships.¬¨‚Ä†
They found fans of films such as Runaway Bride and Notting Hill often fail to communicate with their partner.
Many held the view if someone is meant to be with you, then they should know what you want without you telling them.
Psychologists at the family and personal relationships laboratory at the university studied 40 top box office hits between 1995 and 2005, and identified common themes which they believed were unrealistic. The movies included You’ve Got Mail, Maid in Manhattan, The Wedding Planner, and While You Were Sleeping.
Granted most of those movies are lame. They are not MY kind of rom com, more complicated, indie-ish movies like Something’s Gotta Give or When Harry Met Sally, that really do depict the truly circuitous paths that couples take to get together. But still, I must grudgingly and tragically agree there may be something to their findings.Two questions:¬¨‚Ä†How many of your ideas about relationships have been formed by watching television and movie couples?¬¨‚Ä†How many times have you compared a first date or a messy relationship to what you have seen in movies?If we have to limit our intake of romantic comedies, what are we supposed to watch for escapist fluff now? ¬¨‚Ä†I’m certainly not a fan of action movies or horror flicks. What does this leave? Indie movies about fucked-up families? Biopics?