A Sweet Quirkytogether Vows Column in the New York Times

by | Apr 14, 2009 | Uncategorized | 2 comments

Guilty as charged: Like many women, I sometimes read the New York Times Sunday Styles’ section wedding announcements. I’m not so much keeping score (I don’t really care about marriage-as-status), but I am looking for inspiration in the slog for committed romantic love; at the same time, I sometimes avoid this section. There are too many fresh-scrubbed, cookie-cutter smiling wedding pictures from perfect 29-year-old couples whose fathers are investment bankers and who both attended “most competitive” colleges. In any case, every so often, the Vows column features older kindred spirits whose love stories are simply too quirkytogether to not share. Here’s one of them, and why I loved it.

1) They met on a subway, she approached him (he was reading a philosophy book), and she shouted out her email address to keep the possibility of future communication alive as she exited the car (death to all books that say women shouldn’t make the first move!)
2) He hadn’t been in a serious relationship “since the first Gulf War”: love the honesty of just putting that out there
3) The final quote: “I see beyond the nerd in him, he sees beneath the gaudy in me,” the bride said. “For the first time in my life, Jeff makes me feel fully seen, fully accepted, fully loved.”


  1. Onely

    That’s a cute “how we met” story. I like “how we met” stories.

    That’s one problem with online dating–you don’t get the quirky accidental-meeting story. So that’s why on a first date with an online partner, you need to do something goofy in order to create a story to tell your grandchildren–assuming the relationship survives that goofy first date.

    (Oh, the agonizing subtleties of 21st century living–and our ancestors thought they had troubles with the plague and stuff. Bah!)


  2. Dollie

    I fell in love with my husband at 21 and am still in love with him at 34. To me, love is like porn to that one congressman: I can’t define it, but I know it when I feel it. Sure, we’ve got a lot of life to go (I hope) and many things may happen, but I dearly hope he would never stay with me for money, or shelter, or safety. My parents both have been happily and productively single, and I would rather go that route than stay married to someone I didn’t love, or who didn’t love me.


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