Are you ready for an adventure?

Turn on your life in community

Do you ever feel alone, like the only one who struggles with people-pleasing, a harsh inner critic, or burnout (with work or dating)?

Do you sometimes feel like the only one who doesn’t know exactly what she wants, even though you are 35, 45, 55, or 65?

Are you curious about how other women are approaching this life thing?

Turned-On Living is my yearlong group coaching program–but really, it’s an adventure.

The Turned-On Living philosophy is simple: When you shift your attention to what makes you feel energized, everything else will naturally follow. 

Your confidence, your clearest desires, and the ability to follow through and make them happen.

I don’t teach quick fixes. I teach sustainable growth. Turned-On Living is yearlong because it’s designed to work for somatic, mind-body evolution via action and repeated practice.

When: The next cohort will get started in September 2024.

Deadline to apply: July 1

If you apply by June 1, you’ll be eligible for the early-bird discount of $50 off per month.

Are you in? The first step is to tell me more about you. I hand-curate the group, because the magic is found in the mix of women.

What You Will Get Out of It

Life is not meant to be a to-do list to check off. It’s meant to be enjoyed too. Here are just some of the things you will get out of being part of Turned-On Living. 

  • Live your daily life more intentionally, with joy and zest
  • Prioritize your own pleasure, whether you are single or in partnership. Know yourself better and get clear about what truly makes you happy.
  • Revolutionize your relationship with your body. Connect with your body on a deep level to  know when to say yes, and when to say no
  • Learn and practice strategies of self-compassion to talk to yourself more kindly (the foundation of turned-on living)
  • Create and maintain daily routines of self-care, and learn how to recommit when you fall off (as we all inevitably do)
  • Stop being too nice, learn how to stop people-pleasing, and set boundaries and speak up without breaking connection
  • Explore your own sensuality and sexuality that can be harnessed and enjoyed alone or with a partner in a way that bolsters your sense of self-love, self-expression, and self-worth.
  • Build your confidence and sense of your innate lovability, whether you are single or partnered
  • Practice being vulnerable and real with other women in the group, and give and get support. 
  • Honor all the parts that make you uniquely you. Marry yourself, or commit to yourself in a soul commitment ceremony during our in-person retreat. (If that scares you, perfect! Anything that is truly transformative is just outside the comfort zone.)

To get a deeper understanding of what Turned-On Living can do for you, read these oral histories from the women who participated in the 2023 group.

“I highly recommend Turned-On Living if you’re in need of a wriggle out of the darkness and someone to provide the necessary encouragement and options to find your version of a turned-on life. Sasha hears what we need, she has the ability to uncover what’s underneath and guide us to discovery. I couldn’t imagine someone else for this journey.”–Maggie Buford, Austin, Texas

Are you a Turned-On Living type? (AKA is this for you?)

  • You’re a smart, thoughtful, open-minded woman who has made key decisions to not settle in life. You likely identify as being quirkyalone or quirkytogether (which means no matter what, you aspire to not settle for less than what you want in a relationship, and you prefer to be single than date purely for the sake of dating).
  • You’re childless/childfree, or have grown children. Why? Every woman deserves to live a turned-on life, but this particular adventure is designed for women who have some time to give to themselves
  • If you are married or in a relationship, you want to reclaim you.
  • You are responsible and diligent. You might have people-pleasing tendencies you want to change.
  • If you are already good at speaking up for yourself, you would like to reduce the “hangover” that happens afterward.
  • You want to set better boundaries with work.
  • You’re confident about checking off items on your to-do list. You want more joy and fun!
  • You want to believe a turned-on life is possible at every age, and live it!  
  • You value community.

“I had underlying fears about my budget in the year to come because I was just switching into a new career. I told my daughter about Turned-On Living. She told me, ‘You need to do that.’ It was a bold decision to join. I had to face my fears and go on faith that this was going to be good for me. And it was very good for me.”–Shana, North Carolina

Turned-On Living,

Month by Month

Turned-On Living is a yearlong step-by-step program of women’s empowerment through embodiment and connection with sacred sexual energy. This is. not just a book club or discussion group. Together,  we open up and try new things through action and repeated practice to create change.

In many of the months, we read books together. See the 2023 book list here.

SEPTEMBER

We start with individual and group intentions, and Pussywalking

OCTOBER

Self-Compassion (the foundation for everything else)

November

Prioritizing Pleasure as a path to a Turned-On Life

December

Play + Joy

January

Getting Clear about What You Want (which is also the foundation of a turned-on life!)

February

Anti-People-Pleasing 

March

Embodiment and Confidence

April

Rest (and Digital Detox)

May

Asking for What You Want

June

Self Marriage (or Soul Commitment) (which happens as part of our in-person retreat in RI)

July

Sexuality and Sensuality

August

Boldness (to send you off in style)

Want to see the full curriculum?

Tell me more about you, and you’ll get a document with the full curriculum, which will help you better understand the adventure we will go on together.  You’ll learn more about which months most resonate with you as “you months.”

“I’m crazy about these ladies in the TOL Group! Each person is so unique… and fantastic.” –Jill W, New York, New York

FAQ

How does it work?

  • Three group 75-minute calls per month. The time is the same weekly: Tuesdays at 4 pm ET.  At the start of every call, we dance. 
  • One guided LIVE 30-minute pussywalking session a month for wholeness, confidence and embodied sensuality that gets you walking  differently. These calls will take place via phone and will get you moving.
  • A Whatsapp group to share how it’s going. A place to connect between sessions on the “playwork”  ask questions, and give and get support.
  • Monthly Check-In Buddies: Every month you get a new person to connect with over Zoom, phone, or text. These relationships help to foster closer connections as well as accountability and support.
  • Quarterly personal check-ins with me. I take the time to connect with each person quarterly so we can talk about any blocks or support you need. 
  • Everyone will have their own turned-on living goals and we will be supporting each other to live them throughout the year.

What is pussywalking?

Pussywalking is a mindfulness practice that I invented to help women find confidence through their bodies, specifically through the process of awakening sexual energy in the pelvic region and then circulating it throughout their bodies as they walk. I created pussywalking based on my immersion in Argentine tango, South America, and study of female sexual energy in ancient traditions such as Taoism and Tantra.
 
I have been teaching pussywalking to women since 2013.

Turned-On Living is the best way to learn pussywalking with me because it’s a consistent theme throughout the year. The most important thing is to REMEMBER to pussywalk!

Is pussywalking still relevant to me as a post-menopausal woman?

Absolutely! Pussywalking is relevant for every woman at every age.

Why is there a focus on the body? What is all this somatic stuff?

As we learned in The Body Keeps the Score, traumas (big and little) leave an impact in the body. Healing also takes root in your body.

Through Turned-On Living, you will connect with your body (and mind and spirit) as you practice making decisions for the good of your life. At the same time, you will be stepping into practices to build your life force energy. The best and quickest way to change your emotional and mental state is through connecting with your body.

What if I have to miss a session?

Everyone will miss a session once or twice through the year due to scheduling conflicts; in that case you listen to the recording and catch up with the group on the week’s “playwork” on our private online group. This is no biggie.

Is the retreat mandatory?

By the time we get to that part of the year, you won’t be able to fathom not coming.

How big is the group?

The group will be 8-10 women max. I keep things small enough so that everyone can connect, get to know each other, form bonds, and not get lost in the group. Everyone feeling included and seen is a top priority for me as your facilitator.

“It’s been wonderful to share experiences with the Turned-On Living group, see the commonalities, learn and grow together, and collectively build a community! The members of the group are non-judgmental, inspiring, and incredibly supportive.”–Davina Bhandari, Toronto, Canada

Why I created Turned-On Living

Fifteen years ago, I found myself burned-out, on work, and online dating, completely unsure of what I wanted to do with my life. Having made the practical decisions that were expected from an Ivy League graduate in her mid-thirties, I had gone into Silicon Valley, co-founded and sold a company. I could often be seen crying outside the company where I accepted a job as part of the acquisition. I didn’t believe in what I was doing. I had lost myself.

An instinct to find myself again by reconnecting with my sensuality led me to Brazil, then to Colombia and Argentina. I wound up spending six years living in Buenos Aires, immersed in the culture of tango.

My career change from technology to life coaching led me along a somatic path. Every choice I have made that is in alignment with my body’s messages has helped me become stronger in my life force energy.

In my 12 years working full-time as a coach for women 40+, I have developed a signature methodology that I call Turned-On Living. This is a set of tools that I developed from years of helping hundreds of women, and in my own deep dive into somatic healing, body intelligence, cognitive tools, women’s empowerment, trauma healing, cultural immersion in South America, and many obscure orgasm and female sexuality workshops. This is a great way to learn because you don’t have to go to all those places–you get to learn via me.

I designed Turned-On Living as a small group program because I believe in the power of groups. Breakthroughs come when people witness and support each other in a safe space. There is something about being together, and learning that we are not alone, that helps us grow.

! I love bringing together the women who are drawn to my work, to my cult favorite book Quirkyalone: A Manifesto for Uncompromising Romantics in 2004 (HarperCollins) and To-Do List: From Buying Milk to Finding a Soul Mate, What Our Lists Reveal About Us (Simon & Schuster) and pussywalking, the technique I invented to help women (and even a few intrepid men) step into their power. You tend to be VERY cool people.

My upcoming memoir Wet tells the story of how I healed myself from the aftermath of the secret of childhood sexual abuse through adventures in sensuality in South America. I bring a trauma-aware approach to Turned-On Living, having walked the path of survivorship myself.

I grew up in Rhode Island, so I know something about feeling repressed and uncomfortable with sexuality. Moving to New York and then San Francisco helped me open up. Now I live where I was born, in Providence, Rhode Island.

I genuinely love helping women connect to the power they have inside of them. I look forward to meeting you.

The In-Person Retreat   

Retreat in Rhode Island, the rebellious “biggest little state in the union”

As part of our Year of Turned-on Living, we meet in person for a three-day retreat in Providence, Rhode Island. The retreat will feature the soul commitment ceremony, which we co-create together. The ceremony happens at a beautiful farm in nature. 

There is no substitute for meeting in person. Our three-day retreat will take place in spring 2025 at the end of our year together and is so important. For the 2023 group, it was a magical experience. 

“The Turned-On Living retreat was the ultimate capstone for the year we’ve all spent together. It was both a bonding experience that brought me closer to each woman in our group while also being a safe and supportive space to explore the depths of my soul and my desires for a turned-on life.

Each woman brought with her such a potent energy that shaped our collective experience and created a space of vulnerability and kindness. I am forever grateful for the opportunity to participate in such a transformative experience.”–Christine Edwards, Seattle, Washington

Want to be part of this upcoming “coven”?

Tell me more about you. The group is hand-curated. We’ll get on the phone or Zoom to see if we have a match!