What is self-marriage?
Self-marriage is not about being single or celibate. In fact, you can marry yourself even if you are already legally married to someone else.
Self-marriages takes what is inside your heart and makes it external with a set of vows and a ritual to love and honor yourself. It’s a creative act of self-acceptance that helps you commit to yourself and what makes you happy.
Each person gets to define the meaning of the self-marriage for her or himself. That makes self-marriage a richly creative journey.
Some people say we shouldn’t need self-marriage. We should just be happy and love ourselves without making a big to-do about it. If you already have a fabulous relationship with yourself, fantastic!
But if you are one of the millions of people who struggles with an inner critic voice, and self-marriage does call you, I can tell you, you are in for the (meaningful) adventure of a lifetime!
I married myself at 40 and have helped many other women (single and married) do the same in my coaching practice. Each time I help a woman tie the knot with herself it’s a true treat.
Since I accidentally became one of the world’s leading experts on self-marriage, here’s a “self-marriage-focused” bio
Sasha Cagen is the author of Quirkyalone: A Manifesto for Uncompromising Romantics (HarperCollins, 2004), a landmark book putting a new twist on being a discerning single that got attention everywhere from the New York Times to CNN. Quirkyalone continues to attract new readers years later with its validating message for women and men whose lives have not fit the standard molds of society.
Sasha works as a life coach with women and men who are drawn to the quirkyalone philosophy of not settling in life or love. Since 2004, Sasha has been writing about self-marriage, making her a leading expert in this developing field. Her perspective on self-marriage has been featured in Vogue, Cosmopolitan, Nightline/ABC, the New York Times, and many other media.
Sasha married herself in the Japanese Gardens in Buenos Aires in 2014 in a small ceremony. She later became known in Argentina as the first woman to marry herself in the country with media attention on Buenos Aires’ top TV news program TeleNoche and many other media.
As a guide and a cultural critic observing the trend over many years, Sasha has her finger on the pulse on what it means for women and men to marry themselves in a self (or soul) marriage.
You can read more about my perspective on marrying myself and helping other women marry themselves in these stories:
A Vogue interview, Why Women Are Choosing to Marry Themselves.
Cosmopolitan story: Why I married myself
My own essay describing my decision to marry myself, which surprised me, Why I Married Myself (No White Wedding Dress Required)
Here’s my perspective on self-marriage + my response to the haters that call self-marriage narcissistic.
Hear me share my perspective on this mini-trend on ABC/Nightline and on Tele-Noche in Buenos Aires (in Spanish!).
Want me to guide you for your own self-marriage journey?
I help women (and men) with the self-marriage journey in my coaching practice.
If that’s intriguing go to this page to request a consult and tell me more about you.