What is self-marriage?
I’ve been a pioneer of the self-marriage movement by writing about in my 2004 book Quirkyalone: A Manifesto for Uncompromising Romantics. In the last few years I became the person just about everyone in the media called to explain what self-marriage is all about.
I married married myself 10 years later at age 40 as an an act of self-acceptance, witnessed by a handful of my closest, dearest friends, including one of my best friends–who had actually already married herself! In case you are wondering we both date and have relationships with men. I have my own set of feelings about marriage–but self-marriage is really simple. I am pro!
Self-marriage is not about being single or celibate. It’s a creative act of self-acceptance that helps you commit to yourself and what makes you happy.
Each person gets to define the meaning of the self-marriage for her or himself. That makes self-marriage a richly creative journey.
Some people say we shouldn’t need self-marriage. We should just be happy and love ourselves without making a big to-do about it. That’s great for you if self-marriage doesn’t call your soul. If you already have a fabulous relationship with yourself, fantastic!
But if self-marriage does call you, I can tell you, you are in for a treat!
You can read more about my perspective on marrying myself and helping other women marry themselves in these stories:
A Vogue interview, Why Women Are Choosing to Marry Themselves.
Cosmopolitan story: Why I married myself
My own essay describing my decision to marry myself, which surprised me, Why I Married Myself (No White Wedding Dress Required)
Here’s my perspective on self-marriage + my response to the haters that call self-marriage narcissistic.
See my self-marriage ceremony in the Japanese Gardens of Buenos Aires and hear me share my perspective on this mini-trend on ABC/Nightline and on Tele-Noche in Buenos Aires (that one is in Spanish!).
Want me to guide you for your own self-marriage journey?
I help women (and men) with the self-marriage journey in my coaching practice.
If that’s intriguing go to this page to request a consult and tell me more about you.