Hi! I’m Sasha 

I’m the author of the cult favorite Quirkyalone: A Manifesto for Uncompromising Romantics (Harper SanFrancisco) and To-Do List: From Buying Milk to Finding a Soul Mate, What Our Lists Reveal About Us (Simon & Schuster). My work has been featured on CNN, in the New York Times, NPR, the London Guardian, Vogue and more.

Since 2000, I’ve been helping women and men build self-worth and shed societal baggage to live life on their own terms. Freedom, love, + self-love: that’s what I’m all about. Sign up for my newsletter and you’ll get access to the world-famous quiz to determine if you are a quirkyalone or quirkytogether. You’ll also get my blog posts on how to be true to yourself and live your life with love and adventure at any age. 

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Books Torn from the Heart

Essays, art and memoir, on the way  


Evidence-Based Life Coaching

I help you face what you need to face + move toward what you really want.


Adventures Online and Off

From tango in Buenos Aires to reconnecting to your sensuality, my courses help you get back to you. 

My Books

To get to know me and my perspective, read my books Quirkyalone (HarperSF) and To-Do List (Simon & Schuster). Wet, my memoir, is on the way. Some people call my books life-changing. Could they change yours?

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My work has been featured

Everywhere from the New York Times to CNN … here I am on a talk show in Argentina talking about the growing trend of self-marriage.

What People Say  

"I have worked with a number of coaches, but Sasha is at the top my list. She is intuitive, funny, and wise beyond her years."

Carrie Branovan

Wisconsin, US

"When you’re in any major life transition, Sasha can help. She has many clever, practical solutions to get you through it — most of all — she cares."

Petra Hanson 

San Francisco, CA

“Cagen has put her finger on [society’s] pulse…"

Toronto Globe and Mail  

“Cagen’s up to something that could be as important for women (and men) as The Feminine Mystique was years ago...Thank you Sasha for giving up this proud and thoughtful declaration of independence!"

Barbara Ehrenreich (author of Nickled and Dimed and many other important books) 

Alexandria, Virginia

"The personal journey of coaching with Sasha has been amazing. I can’t thank you enough for expanding my understanding of sex, sexuality, sensuality and feeling turned on as we have worked to overcome my vaginismus."


Ottawa, Ontario

“Sasha, You’ve been on my mind so much in the last two weeks. On February 4th, I got married. To the man I met right at the end of our Quirkytogether course."

Barbara Berry  


"I’d done therapy in the past, but working with Sasha felt more actionable and relatable. Now, I’m actually dating, which is completely new for me."

Lauren Pollini  

San Francisco, CA

“Reading your books, visiting your website and taking your classes have been the pitstops of my journey back to my truly me.”

Andreas Mueller 


"You talk the truth. You don't write about bullshit stuff. You are true to your feelings and what you think, and that gives you an authenticity. You're real. That's what makes me want to read your newsletter.".

Natalia Brasil

Florianopolis, Brazil

Sasha’s Blog

“Body-shamed” in Singapore

A good foot massage is one of my favorite things. The day after I landed in Singapore, my friend Marc and I went hunting for a foot massage place as part of our walking tour. I needed some TLC after a rough overnight trip from Istanbul, a small excursion that wouldn’t...

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