Hi! I’m Sasha
I’m the author of the cult favorite Quirkyalone: A Manifesto for Uncompromising Romantics (Harper SanFrancisco) and To-Do List: From Buying Milk to Finding a Soul Mate, What Our Lists Reveal About Us (Simon & Schuster). My work has been featured on CNN, in the New York Times, NPR, the London Guardian, Vogue and more.
Since 2000, I’ve been helping women and men build self-worth and shed societal baggage to live life on their own terms. Freedom, love, + self-love: that’s what I’m all about. Sign up for my newsletter and you’ll get access to the world-famous quiz to determine if you are a quirkyalone or quirkytogether. You’ll also get my blog posts on how to be true to yourself and live your life with love and adventure at any age.
Join the 5,000+ in the newsletter party already
Books Torn from the Heart
Essays, art and memoir, on the way
Evidence-Based Life Coaching
I help you face what you need to face + move toward what you really want.
Adventures Online and Off
From tango in Buenos Aires to reconnecting to your sensuality, my courses help you get back to you.
To get to know me and my perspective, read my books Quirkyalone (HarperSF) and To-Do List (Simon & Schuster). Wet, my memoir, is on the way. Some people call my books life-changing. Could they change yours?
As seen on
My work has been featured
Everywhere from the New York Times to CNN … here I am on a talk show in Argentina talking about the growing trend of self-marriage.
What People Say
"I have worked with a number of coaches, but Sasha is at the top my list. She is intuitive, funny, and wise beyond her years."
"When you’re in any major life transition, Sasha can help. She has many clever, practical solutions to get you through it — most of all — she cares."
San Francisco, CA
“Cagen has put her finger on [society’s] pulse…"
Toronto Globe and Mail
“Cagen’s up to something that could be as important for women (and men) as The Feminine Mystique was years ago...Thank you Sasha for giving up this proud and thoughtful declaration of independence!"
Barbara Ehrenreich (author of Nickled and Dimed and many other important books)
"The personal journey of coaching with Sasha has been amazing. I can’t thank you enough for expanding my understanding of sex, sexuality, sensuality and feeling turned on as we have worked to overcome my vaginismus."
“Sasha, You’ve been on my mind so much in the last two weeks. On February 4th, I got married. To the man I met right at the end of our Quirkytogether course."
"I’d done therapy in the past, but working with Sasha felt more actionable and relatable. Now, I’m actually dating, which is completely new for me."
San Francisco, CA
“Reading your books, visiting your website and taking your classes have been the pitstops of my journey back to my truly me.”
"You talk the truth. You don't write about bullshit stuff. You are true to your feelings and what you think, and that gives you an authenticity. You're real. That's what makes me want to read your newsletter.".
Over the last year, many people have asked me, “How did that happen?” In other words, “How did you wind up as a guest expert on the Dr. Phil Show?” Yeah, how did that happen? It’s a good question, and a story that apparently must be told. There is nothing quite like...
In a week, the intrepid women who make up my Turned-On Living 2023 group are coming to our weekend retreat in Providence, Rhode Island, where I now call home. This is a momentous moment! We will be together in the flesh! We have been together in a yearlong adventure...
Receiving a traditional Balinese healing massage and then soaking in a flower bath in Bali at the extremely special Karsa Spa was one of the highlights of my (first) three weeks on this magical island. If you are headed to Bali anytime soon, I definitely recommend you...
Stay in touch
Get on the list for blog posts, event invites, and adventure info