One of my greatest joys in life is being a quirkywordsmith. Someone did an interview with me and pointed out in the intro that quirkyalone is in the dictionary. I clicked on his link and here it is: “quirkyalone” in the “slang dictionary” on dictionary.com. I couldn’t help but think, Whoah, I’m done! My life’s work is complete! I put a word on dictionary.com! I don’t know if this is as official as Merriam-Webster but I will revel it in anyway. “Quirkyalone” was also featured as a neologism in the New York Times!
As you get to know my website, books, blog, coaching, and the Tango Adventure in Buenos Aires, you might notice that there are a lot of words that may be unfamiliar to you. I created this glossary as a guide to my work so you can get the quick down-low on my words, and thus my ideas.
Did I mention that I adore playing with words? Also foreign languages. I love those too. Wittgenstein put it best: “The limits of my language means the limits of my world.”
Those words that I actually coined get an asterisk.
Milagrows* (n.) (2013) An exercise I share with coaching clients that is a way of naming all the difficult feelings and judgments you have that are running you. A way to know yourself, accept yourself, and become free. A miracle. Read more about milagrows here.
Playwork (n.) (2013) The playful homework that I will co-create you with at the end of every session if you are a coaching client adds up to your action plan. Read more about playwork here.
Pussywalking* (n.) (2012 privately; I started to share pussywalking with other women clients privately in 2014; and publicly in 2018) A simple way of connecting with your own female anatomy and sexual energy to find your confidence, well-being, and power as you walk, whether at home or on the street. A form of female mindfulness. Watch my instructional pussywalking videos here!
Quirkyalone* (n., adj.) (1999) A person who enjoys being single (or spending time alone) and so prefers to wait for the right person to come along rather than dating indiscriminately. A man or a woman, any age. The essence of quirkyalone is the inability to settle for less than what you really want in a relationship. Read more about quirkyalone here.
Quirkytogether* (n., adj.) (1999) A healthy, dynamic bond between two quirkyalones, or a quirkyalone and nonquirkyalone, who create the structure and rules for their relationship based on the individuality of who they are and their needs. A loving respectful connection of two quirky individuals who merge but not totally. Being quirkytogether is all about authenticity and vulnerability–you can’t be quirkytogether without bringing your full self to the encounter. You can read the chapter on Quirkytogether in Quirkyalone.
Tangasm (n.) (2010) A transcendent, sometimes sweaty feeling of connection that you can have with yourself, your dance partner, the music, and the whole room, when dancing tango. A tangasm is not a climax in the way we think of an “orgasm.” There is no particular moment of release. The tangasm is not about how it looks, it’s about how it feels. You can read about the tangasm in this essay, Is Tango Better than Sex?
Wet (adj.) (2014) A word whose meaning for me is a work in progress as I finish up my memoir. For now, let’s say being wet in being in tune with your body’s messages and reading its cues using your own sexual and sensual energy as a source of confidence and vitality. You can read about my upcoming memoir here.