These are books I recommend to coaching clients, so as a service to all, we have compiled this list of books for you here.
This list is a starting point for a quirkyalone/together library. Let’s add to it and make it longer and longer!
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Comfort and Inspiration
Letters to a Young Poet by Rainer Maria Rilke
The Flaneur: A Stroll Through the Paradoxes of Paris by Edmund White (he urban explorer, the connoisseur of the street)
The Contemporary Single Experience and Living Alone
It’s Not You: 27 (Wrong) Reasons You’re Single by the wonderful Sara Eckel
Going Solo: The Extraordinary Rise and Surprising Appeal of Living Alone
by Eric Klinenberg
Quirkyalone: A Manifesto for Uncompromising Romantics by Sasha Cagen
Can Love Last?: The Fate of Romance over Time (Norton Professional Books) by Stephen Mitchell
All About Love: New Visions by bell hooks
Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel (brilliant, and also a real argument for healthy amount of separation in relationships, aka quirkytogether, in order to keep erotic energy and connection alive)
What You Really Really Want: The Smart Girl’s Shame-Free Guide to Sex and Safety by Jaclyn Friedman (a helpful workbook written for young women that women of any age could benefit from in owning their sexual wants and needs and to work on communication)
Yet to come: My third book, Wet.
Vagina: A New Biography by Naomi Wolf (to go deeper into the biology of the vagina-brain connection at work in pussywalking!)
Love Undetectable: Notes on Friendship, Sex, and Survival by Andrew Sullivan (beautiful essay on friendship drawing on the Greeks’ notions of love)
The Object of My Affection (A moving novel remarkable for the attention it plays to friendship, later made into a sweet movie starring Jennifer Aniston and Paul Rudd)
Loneliness vs. Solitude
Self-Compassion, Self-Acceptance and Shame Resilience