Author + Life Coach
I am a writer and life coach who specializes in helping brilliant women and sensitive, self-aware men who identify with my quirkyalone concept.
In my writing, I get confessional and honest touching on taboo subjects that are common to all of us but that we rarely speak of.
In my coaching programs, I empower women and men to live their best lives single while also being open to a partner. My goal is to help you to get rid of that life-draining feeling “there’s something wrong with me” and instead create life on your own terms, celebrating yourself and the fact that you’re not settling so when you are in a relationship, it’s really the right one for you.
My books–and how they relate to my coaching practice
My first book Quirkyalone: A Manifesto for Uncompromising Romantics (Harper SF) is about people who want to be in relationships but don’t want to settle. It’s a concept that has helped people with that “there’s something wrong with me” feeling if they have been single for years.
In my coaching practice, I help quirkyalone women and some men with self-acceptance and letting go of shame about being single, getting over breakups and romantic obsessions to move on, dating and relationship communication to build “quirkytogether” partnerships, career/business, sexuality, and always self-worth.
My second book To-Do List: From Buying Milk to Finding A Soul Mate, What Our Lists Reveal About Us (Simon & Schuster) was based on the award-winning magazine of the same name I published for years. Of course I use all I learned through a vast study of to-do lists to help my clients not only with time-management but to express emotions, get in touch with what they really want and put their dreams on paper — and to make their dreams come true step by step.
I’m currently at work on a book called Wet which is all about my own journey of healing through a series of sensual adventures across South America. Drawing on all my tango and sexuality training, I help women connect with their bodies for all the intuition bodily awareness can provide. I created a methodology pussywalking that a lot of women like for the secret joy and increased confidence it gives them!
How I Got Started
I grew up in Cranston, Rhode Island, a suburban, mafioso town outside of Providence that the rest of our state mocked for its high hair and accent: “Creeeaanston.”
College took me to Amherst College in Western Massachusetts then to Barnard College in New York City.
In Manhattan I started to find myself as a writer when I co-published a zine Cupsize and wrote for the Village Voice.
After college I drove across country to San Francisco where I lived for almost 20 years. San Francisco is where I really found myself as a creative person. In the Bay Area, I found a supportive creative community where I published the nationally award-winning magazine To-Do List and wrote my books, and for magazines such as Wired and Vice.
A three-year detour into Silicon Valley in my thirties as a startup founder then product manager showed me that the tech industry was not where I wanted to be. That was when I tried to be “normal.” This did not go well.
To break free of the biological clock pressure and dating/life funk that overtook me in my mid-thirties in Silicon Valley I ran off to Brazil with the goal of getting out of my head and into my body.
Brazil set in motion the whole South America phase of my life. The tale of all the sensual adventures and the deep healing and transformation that took place through my years in Brazil, Colombia and Argentina will be told in my forthcoming memoir Wet.
When I returned to the Bay Area after my first year in South America, I decided that I could only be who I am. No more pretending. I trained as a life coach upon return to gain skills to serve the readers who had always been drawn to Quirkyalone for its message of self-acceptance. I embraced the uniqueness of who I am: a quirky artist and healer, someone who is interested in the truth, storytelling, and human connection. I also bring a lot of experience living outside the comfort zone to my clients. Transformation happens when we are willing to take risks.
I built a coaching practice to serve my quirkyalone readers and others attracted to my work, adding in all I have learned about “wetness” sometimes you just have to dive in and you’ll emerge later with a sheen. My training also focused on sensuality, sexuality, trauma, healing, female empowerment, dance, and more.
My work has included individual coaching, online courses, and a transformative Tango Adventure in Buenos Aires. And of course my books.
My life has been one big choose-your-own-adventure. Once you get on the outside-the-box path it’s hard to squeeze yourself back in.
YOLO! Or as Joseph Campbell said, “The privilege of a lifetime is being who you are.”
What I Do
Professional Coaching, Writing Mentoring, My Books
Where I am now
- Since the pandemic started I’ve been in Rhode Island. Before I was living in Buenos Aires. I continue to work with coaching clients worldwide since we work remotely.