Hi! I’m Sasha Cagen, a women’s empowerment coach, author, and tango-obsessed world-traveler. 

I’ve built a life coaching practice based on my deepest convictions and passions. I help smart, creative women move from disempowering, fear-based narratives about themselves back into personal empowerment to create the lives they really want. My coaching has a theme of pleasure: when you reconnect with joy, you connect with confidence and accelerate personal growth. I also help women move beyond people-pleasing tendencies to learn how to put themselves first.

My first book Quirkyalone: A Manifesto for Uncompromising Romantics (HarperCollins) was ripped from my heart, and turned into an organic underground sensation that built a cult following among single people who don’t want to settle for less than what they really want in a relationship. The quirkyalone message is “I’d rather be alone than in poor company.”

Quirkyalone put me on the map as a feminist thought leader on the topics of modern love and women’s empowerment. Years after publication there is so much awareness of “quirkyalone” that the word I coined got its own page in dictionary.com. 

My second book To-Do List: From Buying Milk to Finding a Soulmate, What Our Lists Reveal About Us  (Simon & Schuster) celebrates the humble to-do list, exploring the ways our scribbles reflect our secret desires. I published this book based on 5,000 real, handwritten to-do lists people had sent me to be included in my nationally award-winning print magazine To-Do List.

My essays have appeared in Wired, Vice, San Francisco Chronicle, Utne Reader, Women’s Health, Men’s Health, and many other publications. I’ve taught writing at the San Francisco Writers Grotto and MediaBistro.

A Rhode Island native and graduate of Barnard College, I moved to San Francisco after college. I lived in the Bay Area for nearly two decades until I got sucked into the world of Silicon Valley. When I ran away to South America to reconnect with my body I discovered a radically different new path for my life—told in my forthcoming memoir Wet.

As of March 2020, I returned to my native Rhode Island (little Rhody!), where I am exploring Providence’s creative scene and taking cold plunges in the ocean. 

Other facts:

• I have been coaching for almost ten years. I did my coach training at CTI, the largest Coach Training organization in the world, and have  helped hundreds of women and self-aware men. I am honored by the trust that people place in me.

• I’m passionate about tango and body-mind connection. I spent five years living in Buenos Aires studying tango and PsicoTango. This period of my life came after a big walkabout in South America in Brazil, Colombia, and Argentina.

• Pussywalking is a simple mindfulness practice I invented that any woman can easily practice to transform her posture and increase confidence. Women are told to be ashamed of their bodies. With the revolutionary power of pussywalking, I teach women to be proud of their anatomy. I teach pussywalking online and in-person. Watch the intro to pussywalking video here.

• Female sexuality expert. Many therapists and coaches are not prepared or comfortable with talking about sex and pleasure. I love helping clients with these topics.

• Sexual abuse survivor who has done the work for my own healing. I am writing about that healing journey in Wet. This allows me to talk to clients about healing past trauma.

• Chronic fatigue, celiac disease, and long-time insomnia sufferer. I have done my own body-mind work to work with difficult conditions and thrive. I bring this perspective to my work with clients as well. 

• Travel lover who loves biting into mangoes and getting messy with life. If you become a coaching client I will help you shamelessly take a bite out of life too.