I’m a writer, a life coach, an entrepreneur…and an adventurer. Here’s my story. 

Hi! I’m Sasha Cagen. Born and raised in suburban Rhode Island, I spent much of my adult life in the Bay Area, California, until I decided to say [email protected]#$#@ it to societal expectations and moved to Argentina to reconnect with myself and my work. 

I’m an author, an entrepreneur, and a life coach for women (and a few sensitive, self-aware men) who want to stay true to themselves, never settle, and live outside the box according to their true desires for life.

Since 2000, I’ve been a leading voice for women (and men) validating the choice to be single while being open to a healthy, loving relationship in the media and within my quirkyalone community. Quirkyalone isn’t about being alone. It’s about knowing your worth, single or coupled, and not setting for less than what you really want for your life.

My career has been a series of creative projects. My biggest projects have been Quirkyalone (Harper San Francisco) and To-Do List (Simon & Schuster), To-Do List magazine (winner of the award of best new magazine in Utne‘s Alternative Press Awards), my online courses for quirkyalones, the Tango Adventure, and Solo Chica: a brand to inspire solo female transformative travel.

At the moment I am working on a memoir: Wet. That’s been the biggest creative project of my life thus far!

My work as a coach, writer, and movement-builder has been featured in dozens of media outlets, including CNN, NPR, BBC, The New York Times, USA Today, and The Wall Street Journal.

My books

My cult hit book Quirkyalone: A Manifesto for Uncompromising Romantics launched a movement by putting a new spin on singledom for people who prefer to be single rather than settle. Quirkyalone is for for people who cherish their solitude, want to find a mate, but who would rather be alone than settle for just anyone. Quirkyalone is available in English, and there are also Brazilian, German, and Danish editions of the book.

My second book To-Do List: From Buying Milk to Finding a Soul Mate, What Our Lists Reveal About Us provides a window into our souls via our to-do lists and the stories behind them. This book grew out of To-Do List magazine and it’s a book any glazomaniac (list lover) should own.

I’m currently focused on completing a memoir called Wet. Yes, you heard the title right. Wet is my story of healing the effects of early sexual trauma through sensuality, finding the courage to face the past, and learning to love myself enough to open myself up for the intimacy that I always wanted. Wet is also all about following signals from the body. How many times can I write the word “Wet“!
Sign up to be a beta reader and listen to a podcast about Wet here.

Coach with me

Play your way to the next phase of your life/and or business. When you work with me as your coach, we will go deep (because there’s really no other way) into whatever has been blocking you while we also also get creative about what it takes to create the forward movement and the changes you want to birth in your life. I’ll be your brainstorming partner.

I offer:
life coaching for individuals
life and business coaching for established business owners/executives. I am a sounding board on personal and business issues. This allows us to talk about it all.

Come away to Buenos Aires for a transformative travel adventure

The Tango Adventure gives you a 7-day vacation in tune with what you need with lots of personal support to connect you inside the Buenos Aires tango scene. It doesn’t matter whether you are a total beginner, or an advanced dancer. Tango has much to teach you for your life. Whether you have never been to Buenos Aires or you already love the Paris of the South. Reconnect with your sensuality, your joy, and your confidence. You won’t have to figure it out all on your own because you will have the support of the Solo Chica tango family I created in Buenos Aires to guide you, and you can feel safe knowing you are part of a vetted transformative learning program.

Marry yourself with my help

I’ve become a leading advocate for self-marriage as a ritual of self-love and self-acceptance since first writing about self-marriage in Quirkyalone (2004) then marrying myself (2014). Self-marriage isn’t legal and it certainly doesn’t prevent a serious relationship with another person. In fact, for most of my clients, self-marriage is the foundation for a healthier relationship. That’s because self-love is so profoundly connected to love. If you’re interested in including self-marriage in coaching, let me know.

I’m also known as “the first woman to marry herself in Argentina” because I happened to marry myself in the Japanese Gardens of Buenos Aires. In the photo above, I’m giving spontaneous coaching sessions on the show “Con Amigos Asi” as we talk about “why marry yourself.” 


Just for fun, some factoids…

Origin of name: My formal name is Alexandra Cagen, but most people–or everyone, really–calls me Sasha. Sasha is a Russian nickname for Alexandra and I’ve got Ukrainian in my roots.

Education: Cranston High School East (a public high school), then Amherst College (where I was quite unhappy), then Barnard College (where I was happier), then the school of life in San Francisco, CTI coach training and tango and psicotango in Buenos Aires. Learning is constant!

Where I discovered tango: Cali, Colombia, the world capital of salsa, oddly enough!

Favorite things: Wandering Paris. Swimming in the ocean first thing in the morning. The way my body feels after yoga. Tangasms. Finishing a piece of writing. Good conversations. Creativity and collaboration. Love.

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