Hi! I’m Sasha
I’m a life coach and the author of the cult favorite Quirkyalone: A Manifesto for Uncompromising Romantics (Harper SanFrancisco) and To-Do List: From Buying Milk to Finding a Soul Mate, What Our Lists Reveal About Us (Simon & Schuster).
Since 2000, I’ve been helping women and men build self-worth and shed societal baggage to live life on their own terms. Sign up for my newsletter and you’ll get access to the world-famous quiz to determine if you are a quirkyalone or quirkytogether. You’ll also get my blog posts on how to be true to yourself and live your life with love and adventure at any age.
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Books Torn from the Heart
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Evidence-Based Life Coaching
Leadership. Business. Relationships. Self-love. I help you face what you need to face + move toward what you really want.
Adventures Online and Off
From sensuality as a path of self-knowledge to living your best life as a quirkyalone (or together) my courses help you get back to you.
To get to know me and my perspective, read my books Quirkyalone (HarperSF) and To-Do List (Simon & Schuster). Wet, my memoir, is on the way. Some people call my books life-changing. Could they change yours?
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My work has been featured
Everywhere from the New York Times to CNN … here I am on a talk show in Argentina talking about the growing trend of self-marriage.
What People Say
"I have worked with a number of coaches, but Sasha is at the top my list. She is intuitive, funny, and wise beyond her years."
"When you’re in any major life transition, Sasha can help. She has many clever, practical solutions to get you through it — most of all — she cares."
San Francisco, CA
“Cagen has put her finger on [society’s] pulse…"
Toronto Globe and Mail
“Cagen’s up to something that could be as important for women (and men) as The Feminine Mystique was years ago...Thank you Sasha for giving up this proud and thoughtful declaration of independence!"
Barbara Ehrenreich (author of Nickled and Dimed and many other important books)
"The personal journey of coaching with Sasha has been amazing. I can’t thank you enough for expanding my understanding of sex, sexuality, sensuality and feeling turned on as we have worked to overcome my vaginismus."
“Sasha, You’ve been on my mind so much in the last two weeks. On February 4th, I got married. To the man I met right at the end of our Quirkytogether course."
"I’d done therapy in the past, but working with Sasha felt more actionable and relatable. Now, I’m actually dating, which is completely new for me."
San Francisco, CA
“Reading your books, visiting your website and taking your classes have been the pitstops of my journey back to my truly me.”
"You talk the truth. You don't write about bullshit stuff. You are true to your feelings and what you think, and that gives you an authenticity. You're real. That's what makes me want to read your newsletter.".
Once in a land faraway but just two months ago we were allowed to get very close to each other, far closer than six feet, and even touch each other, and dance tango... and on that night we filmed this video documenting Day 12 of my Inviting Men to Dance Challenge,...
Tango in the Era of COVID-19: What We Have Lost, and What Tango Can Teach Us to Survive Life in Isolation
By Sasha Cagen and Kevin Carrel Footer For anyone who craves touch, Argentine tango is the ultimate dance. Tango teaches us how to hold another person in a close embrace and then move together in unison. But now tango and touch are off limits, in Buenos Aires, where...
On Difficult Decisions: I flew back to the US from Argentina during the coronavirus pandemic, but I wasn’t sure I made the right decision
Having lived abroad for the past five years, switching realities between the US and Argentina once or twice a year, I've noticed that my soul will often take a little while to catch up with my physical body. My physical body travels thousands of miles on jets and goes...
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